My Life in Words

I don’t know of anyone who has not been affected by the current economy.  I don’t even watch the news anymore since all it does is upset and depress me. It is important to realize that no matter how bad things seem to be, how you react to a stressor can negatively affect the people around you as well.  One of my favorite songs, “Busy Man” by Billy Ray Cyrus has a line that states,  “Have you ever seen a headstone with these words, If only I had spent more time at work!” Remember to “love the one you’re with!”

The following list is courtesy of “Couples Communication, Skills for Harmony and Growth.”

  1. Exercise
  2. Ride your bike or walk across a bridge
  3. Go to a scenic place to walk or hike
  4. Pack a picnic and take it to the park or backyard.
  5. Go camping for the weekend
  6. Go to a local museum (Bank of America Museums on Us)
  7. Stretch
  8. Go window shopping at your favorite stores
  9. Volunteer
  10. Walk the dog
  11. Take a class (pottery, yoga)
  12. Work in the garden
  13. Watch a movie
  14. Enjoy your morning coffee in a scenic place
  15. Bowling
  16. Miniature Golf
  17. Take a scenic drive
  18. Take a walk around the neighborhood
  19. Give your significant other a massage
  20. Go to a National Park
  21. Watch a sunset
  22. Read
  23. See a play at a local theater
  24. Start a collection (rocks)
  25. Go wine tasting
  26. Take a walk in a quaint downtown area
  27. Go out for ice cream or yogurt
  28. Breakfast in bed
  29. Dinner by candlelight
  30. Meet for lunch during workweek
  31. Walk along the beach
  32. Take a train ride
  33. Antique shopping
  34. Go on a boat or ferry ride
  35. Try a new restaurant
  36. Take funny pictures
  37. Start a box of good memories
  38. Start a journal
  39. Put together a photo album
  40. Refinish a piece of furniture
  41. Go to a pet store
  42. Try something new (new dish)
  43. Join a sports team in local community
  44. Plant a vegetable garden
  45. Surprise your partner with dessert
  46. Have root beer floats
  47. Try a new sport
  48. Play a board game or card game
  49. Go to bookstore or library
  50. Kiss

I am 38 years old, and I still ask myself this question.  Growing up in Vallejo,CA, I made my way through the Catholic school system. Since my family was not in any financial position to send me to a 4 year college, I worked and did my undergraduate work at Diablo Valley College in Pleasant Hill transferring to UC Berkeley as a junior. A benefactor believed that I had something to offer the world and paid my tuition. Two weeks after graduation, I was working which is something I was doing until a year ago when I was let go from a job I loved; twenty years after I first entered the work force.

We are all conditioned to believe that if we go to a good school and get a good job that we will be set for life. That may have been true in the past when loyal employees stayed with and retired from companies they had been with for decades and were rewarded with a pension and a gold watch. These days, those loyal employees are more likely to get laid off just short of collecting their pensions to make way for much younger employees that don’t cost the company so much money in salary and benefits. It really is a sad state of what our culture has become in the “new economy.”

A few months ago I met a man who asked me if I was happy with my life and I said no.  He introduced me to networking marketing. Oh yes, the so-called pyramid scheme!  The more I learn about networking marketing, the more I believe the way I was conditioned to live my life is the real pyramid scheme: you go to a job everyday where they tell you when to show up and when you can leave, when you can take time off, what you are worth, how you should dress etc. They have all the power and you do what you are told, that is until they decide they don’t need you anymore and terminate you without cause. Being an at-will employee, you have no say or control in the matter. Having a JOB is the real pyramid scheme and you are at the bottom!

In network marketing, it is a level playing field where anyone can succeed if they have the right mindset: To never quit no matter how bad things may get or to make excuses. People such as these have a strong reason why they want to succeed, a good work ethic, and quantifiable written goals. The biggest obstacle to people succeeding is themselves. This is the real reason most people fail in network marketing and in life.

The Journey

I am embarking on a new journey.  After doing the employee thing for the last 20 years, I was let go from a job I loved about a year ago.  The loss of my job was like a divorce as I lost my sense of self worth and my identity. The past year has become a period of self discovery as I have learned that the traditional ways of doing things don’t seem to work anymore and that like many people I bought into the lie that if you graduate from a good college and work hard that you will be rewarded. I hate to burst your bubble, but that ain’t true!  I now realize that I cannot do the same things I have always done and expect a different result. I need to be a master of my own fate and not depend on others for my livelihood or my happiness.  I need to let go of past hurts and baggage because they are holding me back from greatness.  Most of all, I have learned that you need to surround yourself with positive people who will lift you up, not tear you down.

What are your struggles?  What things are holding you back?